LUV

Now I know you think this is another one of my love stories right? Well it’s not, actually, I learned a few things in my relationship that I would love to share with others. Luv … what is luv? Love is an amazing thing . But this time im not speaking about love. I waited a couple of weeks to write this blog and here it is! Each letter signifies an interesting word with a powerful meaning to maintain a loving relationship. lets start off with “L”, what is the common problem that begins with this letter that we as humans lacks in? Listening…this is the hardest thing to do in a relationship and it seems so easy but its not. We tend to argue because we didn’t quite hear what our partner said to us. We always put up this defense wall as if we must have so much pride like our associates tell us how to maintain your relationship . Listen while paying attention to every word that he speaks. Grasp how he smiles when he says certain things . My next letter is “U” … do you know what this stands for? Understanding !! We must understand each other. If we don’t understand our partner , what’s the point of being in a relationship? Understand their needs, desires, dislikes etc. Communication is another source of knowing your partner ,ask questions,”What’s their favorite color?” , “What do you do for fun?” (Ask and you shall receive).

Now we’re down to the last letter…”V” . You wondering right? Validate! This word is powerful in a relationship you know why? It helps with everything I mention above “Listening,and Understanding. It places all the pieces in communicating with your spouse. Validation is the recognition of another thoughts and acceptance of their likes and dislikes .We must learn how to validate each other feelings and accept the response whether it is wrong or not,you have to work it out instead of walking away . Stay in love,not out of love!!

Laugh now ,Cry later

Trying to keep up with the Joneses is not your place, especially when your enemies: phone bill, cable bill, and rent are constantly in your face.

Sometimes you need to adjust your priorities and stop trying to impress people who don’t  really care about what you have…  They would still talk about you irregardless of what you own.

Now you have ignored the bill collectors.  You entertained  friends and dined at the most expensive restaurants. You bought clothing so others can have something to talk about. Along came your new “friends” who want to try to munch on what they think you really don’t have… which is money.

Lights disconnected along with a eviction notice……whose laughing now?

Where are your friends now that you need them?

Silent Voices

“Do you even see me?

I don’t like when people stare at me like I’m a wild animal

I have a voice just like you,it sounds distorted a little bit but I’m still human

I want to play with the other kids my age ,seems like they tend to leave when I come around.

It’s not fair my words comes out mumbled ,all i want to say is I love you.

But people don’t understand my situation and need more education on how to care for me with patience.

I can be overwhelming at times, but I can’t control it.

When I walk in public places I wonder why they watch me.

Sometimes folks whisper and giggle… like I’m weird.

I’m just a child who wants to be love just like any other child.”

 

Autism causes a child’s sensation to react differently.  Sometimes they can’t cope with being touch and around other people.  It not easy for a child with Autism to interact in social gatherings that are highly active. It will seem like a threatened atmosphere for them.  In my humble opinion, education and positive exposure to autistic children and their needs should help those to get a better understanding of the idiosyncrasies of Autism.

R.G

 

 

Does technology and social media facilitate Infidelity?

Nowadays I see a lot of people on their phones engaging on facebook, instagram, interested in the Vine videos that are readily available, may I say, that happens to be putting smiles on their faces.  Hmmm, I wonder who’s on the other side of that inbox!  Thanks to technology, we are able to communicate with a few flicks of a finger or two. Along with this new ease of communication comes the opportunity to send “secret” messages to each other…fostering clandestine relationships .Now we have the ability to communicate with each other without anybody in our circles knowing.   Infidelity has become so easy through the use of present day telecommunication devices. Unfortunately this is one way most married spouses start to cheat, believe it or not.  I’ve heard songs praising infidelity through the “DM” (direct messaging). Yes, there are even songs that promoting cheating (“Nobody has to know” by Kranium.)  Now don’t get me wrong.  I’m not a supporter of broken hearts and families.  Unfortunately, online dating has made it easier to hide infidelity for a couple of reasons.  The two people may never need to meet.  Through the magic of “texting” they don’t really need to talk on the phone so no more getting caught whispering on the phone.  If they want to meet, there are so many apps on their phones that they can easily be watching tv with their spouse setting up a time and place to have their secret/sexual rendezvous…nsa “no strings attached” as some say.  A lot of the time that is not the case and it starts to grow messier after emotions get involved or the infidelity is discovered by a spouse.  Now before you think I’m promoting infidelity, I’m definitely not.  I’m expressing how it can break up happy homes. To be honest, I believe both men and women cheat because of either emotional or physical stress at home,workplace etc.  Then we have these dating sites that pop up on the computer screen persuading people to sign up to have a good time instead of being home with their “boring” wives/husbands who do the same thing every night and thinking that’s how they keep their spouse when half of them don’t realize that there is someone who’s much better then them in the bedroom…just switch it up a little and be more spontaneous .

Social media can be used to literally destroy a relationship just from simply texting or inboxing a old friend may I say.  When you think of texting that friend from way back, we tend to think about having sex with the other person sooner or later after a few “DMs” and exchanging numbers.  To close this up…put your phone away and provide simple attention to your spouse.  That will put you on your way to a better, more connected relationship.  That tends to be the quality some cheating spouses are searching for in others.  Be excited that they are in your life.  Men, try that old fashion love by opening the door when going in and out of the car or house, send roses with a card telling them how much you enjoy their company.  Old fashion love needs to come back to 2016 because when it’s all said and done,  he/she is all you have in your life. Appreciate them and show them you LOVE them and most importantly put your phone down and dial what’s in front of you….

A Sick Addiction

Just watching this lady walk up and down the street everyday is priceless. Everyday I get up, on my way to work, I see her going to her favorite spot of course…the liquor store.  By the way her name is Ms. Harper. Shes in her mid 30’s, unemployed and relies on her monthly check to survive. Lately I noticed Ms. Harper. She is expecting! Yes, she’s having a baby….but I’ve never seen her male friend around here. Maybe he works at night. It seems the more her stomach grew  bigger, the more runs she made to the liquor store…i wonder if they see her pregnancy(would they stop selling her the alcohol?) I guess not. Months went by  and the day was finally here Ms.Harper water broke,and the ambulance came at her rescue . I thought about going to the local store and buy her a  couple of things for her newborn. A couple days went by and  while looking out the window I noticed Ms.Harper  arriving in a cab by herself….where is the baby? As she gets out the cab she walks down to the store to grab her a cold beverage..did she even learn her lesson?  I walked over to welcome her back home with the gifts, she thanked me and rushed in her apartment carrying a small black plastic bag. 

Later that evening  a tall man arrived at Ms.Harper house angrily,all i heard was loud yelling,lamps being thrown etc. Then the guy ran out the house fussing about a baby and her drinking habit. I just shook my head in disbelief and went to bed. The next morning I got up ,showered ,grabbed a apple off the table and headed out the door for the park to do my daily routine three laps around the track. As i headed back Child Services was across the street ringing Ms. Harpers bell she peeked out the window but didn’t open the door. Do she even want to be bothered with her child?